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Have Money, Want Happiness? Try a Life Coach
Posted by Kimberly Delaney on July 3, 2006 - 6:00am.
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The over 50,000 life coaches in practice worldwide will tell you that money can, in fact, buy happiness—or at least balance in your life—if you're willing to do the work. Critics see them as unqualified, amateur psychotherapists, who might do more harm than good. While there are training programs for coaches, it is an unregulated industry and most coaches are not certified. Can life coaches really deliver what they promise?

Why would you work with a life coach?

If you are going through a transition, want to manage your time better, or have specific goals you want to accomplish, a life coach might be the answer. Coaches offer a new perspective on your challenges and they will point out if your own perspective is limiting or defeatist. You also benefit from guided goal-setting, practicing commitment, and being accountable for your time and choices. A great coach encourages you to get out of your comfort zone and take risks. If you are going through an identity transition (think stay-at-home parent turned small business owner, or academic turned corporate) pushing you out of your comfort zone may be the most valuable contribution your coach makes.

What to expect: Most coaches do their work by phone. Here's a typical thirty-minute coach call:

  1. You relate how you did on the actions steps you committed to during the previous call.
  2. The coach listens and offers suggestions. If you've flaked, a coach might offer a healthy dose of tough love.
  3. You discuss any new challenges you face and approaches to overcoming them. The coach listens and offers input.
  4. You and your coach design a realistic action plan for the next week.

Issues to Consider

A coach does nothing for you. They don't research or make contacts. They don't tell you what to do, set your goals, or provide instant enlightenment. A coach is a guide, your biggest fan and toughest teacher but not your therapist. People struggling with addiction, severe depression, or mental illness need to seek out the appropriate care. A life coach is also not a financial planner or a couple's counselor. They may offer advice on money and relationships, but are not specifically certified to do so. In short: a coach keeps you accountable, but YOU do the work.

Skeptics say hiring a coach is an overpriced substitute for personal discipline. However, for many people being disciplined and achieving goals is a lot easier with support from a team, including a coach. Coaching is not cheap with typical fees ranging from $200-500 a month, but for many people, paying the monthly fee is a motivator to stick to their commitments.

The Pitfalls

Real pitfalls do exist in the coaching world, particularly because it is unregulated. Anyone can decide they're a life coach and start to market their business. They may lack organization skills or they may have poor listening skills. They may have no tools to offer you and no training to know-how to help you. Certification does not guarantee a coach's effectiveness, but it at least shows that they've done the work required to reach their own goals. A referral from a friend may outweigh whether or not the coach is certified, but it is important that you interview any coach to find a match.

So should you hire a life coach?

Given the preceding warnings, if you are ready to do the work to make some real changes in the way you live and you have some concrete goals to achieve, a life coach could be a great option for you. The key is to find the right one. By doing a little legwork, asking your friends for referrals and interviewing possible coaches, you should have no trouble finding one who meets your needs. Here are some questions to ask anyone you interview:

  1. How long have you been a coach and how many clients have you worked with?
  2. Are you certified? If not, why?
  3. What is your most dramatic success story?
  4. What is a more typical client experience?
  5. Do you have a specific approach, philosophy or tool set that you use when working with clients?
  6. Do you have expertise in any specific areas?
  7. What is accomplished in each coaching session?
  8. How long are the sessions and how many per month?

There is no right formula. You need to decide which criteria are most important and gauge how comfortable you feel with each coach. And remember that above all, this is much more about you and how committed you will be to reaching your goals than it is about which coach you've chosen.

Further Resources:

Find Your Coach

Coach Training Alliance

Coach, Inc.

Coach Federation



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<em>Anonymous</em>'s picture
This is a great article,
by Anonymous on July 3, 2006 - 10:57am
This is a great article, with a lot of user-friednly information. The author really breaks down the pros and cons with real life perspectives that are easy to relate to. I feel motivated already!
<em>Anonymous</em>'s picture
I'am seeing a shrink
by Anonymous on July 3, 2006 - 3:19pm
Life coach, an alternative to clinical therapy and you don't have to tell your friends you are seeing a shrink. great article, well written joe Maui
<em>Anonymous</em>'s picture
What is the word "coach" don't people understand?
by Anonymous on July 3, 2006 - 11:02pm
They are coaches. They help you work out a game plan but not the game. For a coach the game is a given. In this case it's your game and you are setting the rules. They just make sure you stick to them and play fair. They don't play alongside you. They motivate.
<em>Anonymous</em>'s picture
accurate data...I know, I am a life coach.
by Anonymous on July 6, 2006 - 8:48pm
As I read the article, I began to clinch a bit. There have been so many crazy things written about coaching... it's been a case of "one bitten, twice shy". However, it was an accurate overview. I have been a coach since 1999: a time when I had to explain my craft to everyone. Then, the public image of a coach didn't exist. Now 'we' have been in the news and on talk shows...and though the facts have been misreported and distorted...at least more have heard of a coach. Most of my clients are people in transition (life changing illness, job loss/change, empty nest, divorce/death of spouse,etc.) who want to get through the process faster and come out the other side smarter and better than they started. We have great moments, steady progress...usually work together about 3 to 6 months, though some clients stay with me a year or so because once we work though one issue they want to 'clean their emotional closet'. I love my work. Let me know if I can be of assistance or you want to know more about the coaching process. dolanjones@gmail.com Peace! Janel Jones
<em>Anonymous</em>'s picture
sample a few coaches before choosing
by Anonymous on July 16, 2006 - 7:15pm
Thank you for the article on life-coaching. My passion for coaching was born out of my frustration from listening to my dissatisfied mother who thought she was a victim to her lot in life- 5 kids and a husband who worked too much. Although she was my first failure- she never changed until much later on, I became committed to living a full life and helping others to grow and change. In the 70's I helped to start a training and coaching company in the Bay area- like Janel above- had to define it before we could do it. Today I'm called an Executive coach which at the core is much like "life coaching" but wrapped in layers of experience that include leadership and team development, organizational knowledge, personal transition, systems thinking, appreciative inquiry, and other methods to help individuals gain clarity of purpose and direction, focus on their strengths and bring their best selves to work. Choosing a coach is a personal thing. The best way is through referral or by experiencing them directly. Most coaches offer a complimentary thirty minute session where you can present a key issue to them and feel the chemistry between you. Good luck! Wendy Wallbridge wendy@onyourmarkcoach.com http://www.onyourmarkcoach.com/
<em>MLCrow</em>'s picture
Thank you
by MLCrow on August 15, 2006 - 6:52pm
This is an excellent article.    For several months I have been curious about life-coaching and its potential value vs. pitfalls. At one point I thought I might contact a life coach but it turned out she apparently would only coach women. Then at other times, I feel that I know what I need to do, and it's my responsibility to "coach" myself.   But at times it might be nice to have an ally who can sort of push me forward.   Thank you for posting this.
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Best Life Coach Ever!
by Anonymous on August 21, 2006 - 12:05am

Jesus Christ... and there is no such thing as luck... only blessings

 

~nicolas


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